What is a Well Balanced Life?

What is a Well-Balanced Life?

CEOs will tell you that there’s no such thing as a balanced life. But that’s not true. Some people might prefer a life that’s unbalanced, but that option doesn’t appeal to everyone. A well-balanced life is a worthwhile objective for the majority of the population.

 What is a well-balanced life?

 It’s a life that has all the resources and activities that you most desire. It largely avoids feelings of sacrifice. A balanced life isn’t for those that want to be the best in the world at something. It’s not for the people that live on the edge or the fringe. It’s for regular people that want to enjoy all aspects of life, rather than focus on one thing.

 In short, a balanced life contains everything you want it to contain.

 All balanced lives have several things in common:

 1. Finances. If you’re struggling to pay your bills, your life isn’t balanced. If you can’t do the things you most want to do for financial reasons, your life isn’t balanced. Can you afford school supplies? A new transmission? Do you spend all of your waking hours trying to make enough money?

 ● You don’t need to be wealthy to have a balanced life, but you do need to have enough money.

 2. Transportation. Can you get where you need to be, when you need to be there? Transportation can take the form of walking, public transportation, ride services, friends, or your own vehicle.

 ● Reliable transportation is an important part of living a balanced life.

 3. Friends. You might need ten friends, or one might be plenty. However, we all need at least one friend. You can’t do everything alone.

 4. Intimate relationship. This one is optional for many people, but entirely necessary for others. Most of us do better if we have an intimate relationship, or a relationship with the potential to become intimate. Busy people often neglect this area of their lives, but that can be a mistake.

 5. Health. Poor health can quickly take the wind out of your sails. A well-balanced life includes a healthy mind and body. While your health isn’t 100% under your control, you have more control over it than you’ve probably been exercising.

 6. Time. If you don’t have enough free time, your life isn’t well-balanced. How much free time do you need? That’s up to you. However, if you don’t have time to do the things you really want to do, you don’t have enough.

 7. Fun. Everyone needs to have some fun once in a while. Can you quickly answer the question, “What do you do for fun?”? If not, you have some work to do.

 8. Personal growth. Progress is part of enjoying life. We feel great when we’re making progress. How have you grown and changed in the last six months?

 9. Career. Money is one thing. Your career is another. Though, they can be closely related. If you make plenty of money, but hate how you make it, your life could be better.

 Do you have a balanced life? It’s easy to know. Do you have the money and time to take care of yourself, your family, and to do the things you most want to do? Do you have the social life you desire? Do you have enough time in your week to have fun and grow personally? Do you enjoy your career?

 You already know if your life is balanced or not. If it’s not, what are you going to do to re-balance it?

Live Your Best Life in 6 Steps

Everyone is different. It’s not reasonable to expect that everyone wants to live the same life. But, to step outside the options that society deems to be acceptable can be a little scary. Our need to impress and be accepted can be very strong.

Perhaps you’ve never really considered what your dream life would be. It’s hard to hit a target that you’ve never identified.Follow these steps to imagine the best life you could possibly have and then live it:

 1. Be true to yourself. You can’t live your best life if you’re pretending to be someone or something that you’re not. The first step in living your best life is to admit to yourself who you really are. Be honest about your likes, dislikes, and dreams.

 ● Maybe you would like to live in a cabin in the woods and grow all of your food.

 ● Or do you love the idea of minimalism and frugality?

 ● Do you prefer animals to people?

 ● Would you like to live in a commune?

 ● Do you love to play the accordion?

 ● Would you like to travel the world like a nomad without a home base?

 ● Do you want to spend all of your time and resources saving the planet?

 ● Does the idea of having children horrify you? Or would you like to try for 13 kids?

 ● Choose what appeals to you. Any admiration or scorn you receive from others won’t last long enough for your cup of coffee to get cold.

 2. Make a plan. Relying on chance or luck is a losing game in the long run. If you want a specific life, it’s important to choose it and then make a plan to get there. Make a long-term plan that begins with something you can do today.

 3. Execute your plan. Many people love to dream and plan. That’s the easy and fun part. Unfortunately, few people ever take the first step in their plan. They never get started.

 ● Take some sort of action each day outlined by your plan. You don’t have to do an amazing amount of work each day to make significant progress over time. A little each day eventually grows into substantial results.

 ● The hardest part is getting started, so ensure that you get started as soon as possible. There will never be a perfect time to begin. Begin now and make the best of it. Everything changes once you actually begin.

 4. Learn from your mistakes. Neither you nor your plan is flawless. You will make mistakes and try things that don’t work. That should be expected. Decide that you’re going to learn from your mistakes, adjust your approach, and try again.

 5. Focus. Keep your attention on those things that are relevant regarding your plans. Reject nearly everything else.

 ● Why are you gossiping about your coworkers or neighbors?

● Still upset about how your ex cheated on you 13 years ago?

● Annoyed by the price of gasoline?

 ● What do any of these sorts of things have to do with achieving your goals and attaining your dream life? (Nothing.)

 6. Finish. You can’t live your best life if you give up on your quest to attain it. Keep going until you’ve arrived where you want to be.

Your best life is out there ready for you to claim it! Be completely honest with yourself, make a plan, and stick with it until you’ve arrived. The life you desire is attainable and within your reach. Do you have the courage to make it happen?

Take a chance on feeling happy and fulfilled. Chase after your dream life.

Repeat After Me – I AM….

I am uniquely special.

I know there isn’t anyone like me in the world. I appreciate my uniqueness. I appreciate my specialness.

I am learning to accept myself as I am. I am learning to love myself unconditionally. I am learning how to let go of self-judgement.

I am grateful for all the positive affirmations that are now becoming commonplace. I am grateful that others are starting to become more positive in the world. I am grateful for my uniqueness.

I can see how my uniqueness can serve the world. I am happy that I am special. I am happy that I see the uniqueness in all people. I am happy that I see all people as special.

I love diversity. I love creativity. I love when people express their true selves. I love when I have the courage to express my unique self.

I know that when I give myself permission to be my unique self, it opens the door for others to be their unique selves too.  I am grateful for the times I have had the courage to be my truly unique self.

I recognize that the more I express my creativity and uniqueness, the more it gives fresh ideas to others, so they can express themselves more fully. I realize that when we are all our creative selves, we bring more new ideas to the world.

Today, I am thankful that I have the courage to step out and be unique. I choose to be my unique special self. I feel greater self-esteem when I am my authentic self.

 Self-Reflection Questions:

1. What is unique about me?

2. What is special about me?

3. How can being my unique self serve the world?

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WHO IS THIS PROGRAM FOR?

ANYONE WHO:

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A 30-DAY BREAKTHROUGH

MAY HELP YOU EXPERIENCE:

  • Gut detox
  • Clearer skin
  • Better productivity habits
  • Weight loss
  • Mental clarity
  • Increased self-confidence
  • More positive mindset
  • A healthier relationship with food
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 Do 20 minutes of physical activity.

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 Drink half your body weight in oz of water.

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 Complete 15 minutes of self development.

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Accept Your Reality

Accept Your Reality

Sometimes in life, we end up in situations that we just can’t change.

Radical acceptance is all about fully accepting your reality in situations that are beyond your control. This doesn’t mean you approve of the situation, are giving up, or that it isn’t painful. You are still allowed to feel however you feel, but by accepting that it is what it is, you give the problem less power over you and you can begin to move forward.

Helpful Tips:

Notice when you’re fighting against reality. The first step in accepting reality is gaining awareness that you’re resisting it. If you’re feeling bitter or resentful, wishing things were different, or thinking about how life isn’t fair, you might be fighting reality.

Remind yourself that you can’t change what has already happened. By identifying what you can and can’t control, you can turn your energy towards coping with the things you can’t change.

Embrace your feelings. You might still be angry, scared, overwhelmed, or lonely–that’s okay. Accepting reality includes everything that you’re feeling too without any judgement.

Relax your body. If you’re feeling stressed or are pushing against the reality of your situation, there’s a good chance your body is tense. Physically relaxing your body can help you feel more ready to accept what is reality.

Try yoga, taking a hot bath or shower, deep breathing exercises, or getting a massage to help you relax.

Practicing radical acceptance has been shown to reduce feelings of shame, guilt, and anxiety.

Circa 1996. Still Relevant.

Please Hear What I’m Not Saying

Don’t be fooled by me.
Don’t be fooled by the face I wear
for I wear a mask, a thousand masks,
masks that I’m afraid to take off,
and none of them is me.

Pretending is an art that’s second nature with me, but don’t be fooled,
for God’s sake don’t be fooled.

I give you the impression that I’m secure, that all is sunny and unruffled with me, within as well as without,
that confidence is my name and coolness my game, that the water’s calm and I’m in command and that I need no one, but don’t believe me.

My surface may seem smooth but my surface is my mask, ever-varying and ever-concealing. Beneath lies no complacence. Beneath lies confusion, and fear, and aloneness. But I hide this. I don’t want anybody to know it.
I panic at the thought of my weakness exposed. That’s why I frantically create a mask to hide behind, a nonchalant sophisticated facade, to help me pretend, to shield me from the glance that knows.

But such a glance is precisely my salvation, my only hope, and I know it. That is, if it’s followed by acceptance, if it’s followed by love. It’s the only thing that can liberate me from myself, from my own self-built prison walls, from the barriers I so painstakingly erect. It’s the only thing that will assure me of what I can’t assure myself, that I’m really worth something. But I don’t tell you this. I don’t dare to, I’m afraid to.
I’m afraid your glance will not be followed by acceptance, will not be followed by love. I’m afraid you’ll think less of me, that you’ll laugh, and your laugh would kill me. I’m afraid that deep-down I’m nothing and that you will see this and reject me.

So I play my game, my desperate pretending game, with a facade of assurance without and a trembling child within. So begins the glittering but empty parade of masks, and my life becomes a front. I idly chatter to you in the suave tones of surface talk.
I tell you everything that’s really nothing, and nothing of what’s everything, of what’s crying within me.
So when I’m going through my routine
do not be fooled by what I’m saying.
Please listen carefully and try to hear what I’m not saying, what I’d like to be able to say, what for survival I need to say, but what I can’t say.

I don’t like hiding. I don’t like playing superficial phony games. I want to stop playing them. I want to be genuine and spontaneous and me but you’ve got to help me. You’ve got to hold out your hand even when that’s the last thing I seem to want. Only you can wipe away from my eyes the blank stare of the breathing dead. Only you can call me into aliveness. Each time you’re kind, and gentle, and encouraging, each time you try to understand because you really care, my heart begins to grow wings–
very small wings,
very feeble wings,
but wings!

With your power to touch me into feeling you can breathe life into me.
I want you to know that.
I want you to know how important you are to me, how you can be a creator–an honest-to-God creator–of the person that is me if you choose to.
You alone can break down the wall behind which I tremble, you alone can remove my mask, you alone can release me from my shadow-world of panic,
from my lonely prison,
if you choose to. Please choose to.

Do not pass me by. It will not be easy for you. A long conviction of worthlessness builds strong walls.
The nearer you approach to me the blinder I may strike back. It’s irrational, but despite what the books say about man often I am irrational.
I fight against the very thing I cry out for. But I am told that love is stronger than strong walls and in this lies my hope. Please try to beat down those walls with firm hands but with gentle hands for a child is very sensitive.

Who am I, you may wonder?
I am someone you know very well.
For I am every man you meet
and I am every woman you meet.

Charles C. Finn
September 1966

The Secret to Communicating with Your Adult Children

You love your adult children and want to have a close relationship with them. However, things sometimes turn out differently than you planned.

Family communications can be tricky. It’s easy to fall into old patterns that become reinforced over many years. It’s difficult to remember that the baby you raised now has a career and children of their own.

Transforming the way in which you talk with each other can help you to strengthen your connection and avoid misunderstandings. Try these secrets for communicating with your adult children.

Staying in Touch with Your Adult Children

Are Zoom calls enough? Studies show that parents and adult children who interact face to face tend to have more positive relationships. If possible, use technology as a supplement rather than a mainstay.

Try these strategies:

Plan ahead. Even if you live under the same roof, your relationships will probably be more rewarding if you approach them intentionally. That’s even more important if you’re miles away. Block out time for each other on a regular basis.

Enjoy common interests. You’ll have more to talk about if you like the same things. Play board games and outdoor sports. Take cooking classes and visit science museums. Share your experiences with home improvement projects and volunteer activities.

Take a vacation. Family trips create lasting memories. A change of scenery can also make it easier to experiment with new ways of relating to each other. Choose a destination that appeals to your whole group.

Host your grandchildren. Spend time with your grandchildren and rack up some goodwill with your own kids. You’ll have fun with the little ones, and their parents will be able to take a break.

Communicate one on one. Family gatherings are wonderful but connecting individually matters too. Engage in private discussions and outings.

Schedule a call. Technology may have limits, but it’s still valuable. Connect with video calls and text messages when you’re unable to see each other offline.

Resolving Differences with Your Adult Children

Disagreements among family members are natural and can trigger strong emotions. Still, iIf you deal with them constructively, they can draw you closer together.

Keep these strategies in mind to help keep challenges at bay:

Listen closely. Spend more time listening to your adult children and less time talking. Pay attention to what they’re saying instead of planning your comeback. Use encouraging facial expressions and gestures.

Respect boundaries. Let your family know how you wish to be treated and the consequences for exceeding your limits. Show them the same courtesy and respect.

Set priorities. Decide on the principles and values you want to stand up for. Be flexible and open to compromises in other areas. You may be able to accept different housekeeping standards, as long as you spare each other any manipulation or guilt trips.

Let go of judgements. Be happy that your children are strong and independent adults capable of making their own decisions. Offer moral support but avoid giving unsolicited advice unless there’s a serious health and safety concern.

Apologize sincerely. You’re bound to disappoint each other sometimes or struggle to find common ground. Be quick to ask for forgiveness when appropriate and be generous about giving second chances.

Express appreciation. You’ll probably run into fewer conflicts if you cultivate a sense of gratitude. Think about the qualities you like in your children. Let them know that you love them and recognize their achievements.

Build a strong and mutually rewarding relationship with your adult children. Open and respectful communications will help you to enjoy meaningful conversations and fun times. While the way you interact changes over time, you may enjoy your new friendship even more.

New Experiences

New experiences excite me. I am always interested in trying something new. Whether it is a new food, travelling to a new location, or listening to a new type of music, I am an enthusiastic participant.

I believe that variety is the spice of life. I want to experience as much as possible during my time on Earth.

I avoid falling into a routine that prevents me from experiencing all the variety that the world has to offer.

I want to sample it all during the time I have.

I want to ensure that I have seen, done, and experienced everything that interests me. I believe that a life fully lived is rich, varied, and bold. I am committed to living this type of life. I embrace the opportunities to live this type of life.

I am a curious and open person in general. I want to know more. I want to see more. I am open to new people, cultures, and ideas.

I am interested in looking beyond my regular daily life.

Today, I am keeping my eyes and options open. I am determined to have at least one new experience today. I can always create an opportunity if one fails to present itself to me. New experiences are my exciting new path in life.

Self-Reflection Questions:

  1. What is the most interesting new thing I have done in the last year? Why haven’t I done more new things over this period of time?
  2. What are some new experiences that I would like to have that are within my reach?
  3. If I had one new experience each week, how would that change me over the next five years?

I Am the Hero of My Own Journey

I am the hero of my own journey.

I am grateful for the knowledge of the Hero’s Journey. I am truly blessed to have education around this model. Now that I am armed with this information, I can go on a conscious life quest.

I realize that I have been on my journey my whole life. Now I can look back and see the blessings of all lessons along the way.

I forgive myself for mistakes in the past. I realize they were only “missteps.”

Even though I have gotten stuck in the mire in those swamps of the past, I am proof now that I can survive anything. I am tough.

I have ventured into the dark night of the Soul and lived to see the light.

I have gone into scary caves and found the treasure trove of digging deep into my spirit and finding strength I didn’t know I had.

Having gone through tough times, I have come out triumphant.

Now that I am a Conscious Hero of my life, I can choose my path from a place of wisdom.

I check in with my heart first, as it is the compass of my Soul. I set my sight on my North Star and with the determination of a racehorse, I move swiftly toward my goal. I am immune to distractions.

Today, I gain wisdom and strength along my journey and share the boon with my fellow travelers.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. What can I do today to be conscious of my hero’s quest?
2. How can I turn the travails of my life into treasures?
3. Who do I want as my trusted companions on my journey?

Sincerely,
Life Coach Deborah
Life Coach