What is a Well Balanced Life?

What is a Well-Balanced Life?

CEOs will tell you that there’s no such thing as a balanced life. But that’s not true. Some people might prefer a life that’s unbalanced, but that option doesn’t appeal to everyone. A well-balanced life is a worthwhile objective for the majority of the population.

 What is a well-balanced life?

 It’s a life that has all the resources and activities that you most desire. It largely avoids feelings of sacrifice. A balanced life isn’t for those that want to be the best in the world at something. It’s not for the people that live on the edge or the fringe. It’s for regular people that want to enjoy all aspects of life, rather than focus on one thing.

 In short, a balanced life contains everything you want it to contain.

 All balanced lives have several things in common:

 1. Finances. If you’re struggling to pay your bills, your life isn’t balanced. If you can’t do the things you most want to do for financial reasons, your life isn’t balanced. Can you afford school supplies? A new transmission? Do you spend all of your waking hours trying to make enough money?

 ● You don’t need to be wealthy to have a balanced life, but you do need to have enough money.

 2. Transportation. Can you get where you need to be, when you need to be there? Transportation can take the form of walking, public transportation, ride services, friends, or your own vehicle.

 ● Reliable transportation is an important part of living a balanced life.

 3. Friends. You might need ten friends, or one might be plenty. However, we all need at least one friend. You can’t do everything alone.

 4. Intimate relationship. This one is optional for many people, but entirely necessary for others. Most of us do better if we have an intimate relationship, or a relationship with the potential to become intimate. Busy people often neglect this area of their lives, but that can be a mistake.

 5. Health. Poor health can quickly take the wind out of your sails. A well-balanced life includes a healthy mind and body. While your health isn’t 100% under your control, you have more control over it than you’ve probably been exercising.

 6. Time. If you don’t have enough free time, your life isn’t well-balanced. How much free time do you need? That’s up to you. However, if you don’t have time to do the things you really want to do, you don’t have enough.

 7. Fun. Everyone needs to have some fun once in a while. Can you quickly answer the question, “What do you do for fun?”? If not, you have some work to do.

 8. Personal growth. Progress is part of enjoying life. We feel great when we’re making progress. How have you grown and changed in the last six months?

 9. Career. Money is one thing. Your career is another. Though, they can be closely related. If you make plenty of money, but hate how you make it, your life could be better.

 Do you have a balanced life? It’s easy to know. Do you have the money and time to take care of yourself, your family, and to do the things you most want to do? Do you have the social life you desire? Do you have enough time in your week to have fun and grow personally? Do you enjoy your career?

 You already know if your life is balanced or not. If it’s not, what are you going to do to re-balance it?

Accept Your Reality

Accept Your Reality

Sometimes in life, we end up in situations that we just can’t change.

Radical acceptance is all about fully accepting your reality in situations that are beyond your control. This doesn’t mean you approve of the situation, are giving up, or that it isn’t painful. You are still allowed to feel however you feel, but by accepting that it is what it is, you give the problem less power over you and you can begin to move forward.

Helpful Tips:

Notice when you’re fighting against reality. The first step in accepting reality is gaining awareness that you’re resisting it. If you’re feeling bitter or resentful, wishing things were different, or thinking about how life isn’t fair, you might be fighting reality.

Remind yourself that you can’t change what has already happened. By identifying what you can and can’t control, you can turn your energy towards coping with the things you can’t change.

Embrace your feelings. You might still be angry, scared, overwhelmed, or lonely–that’s okay. Accepting reality includes everything that you’re feeling too without any judgement.

Relax your body. If you’re feeling stressed or are pushing against the reality of your situation, there’s a good chance your body is tense. Physically relaxing your body can help you feel more ready to accept what is reality.

Try yoga, taking a hot bath or shower, deep breathing exercises, or getting a massage to help you relax.

Practicing radical acceptance has been shown to reduce feelings of shame, guilt, and anxiety.

Why Aries women are force to be reckoned with…

7 Core Traits Of The Aries Woman…

#1: Aries women are some of the most passionate people that you’ll ever meet, but…

The Aries woman is full of life and passion. She’s always got a million different things on the go and is constantly up for trying new things. She’ll also talk your ear off for hours on end if you ask the right questions.

But sometimes her passion can wither quickly and she can find herself losing interest in people or activities that don’t present her with a challenge. Her gung-ho ambition allows her to devote all of her energy to projects that entice her and once something becomes boring, the Aries woman may become impatient. She often moves on to new projects before she completes the old ones and people who can’t match her fire may get cast aside for new playmates.

#2: Aries women have a relentless sense of optimism and belief in themselves.

The Aries traits of optimism and self-belief run deep within these women. She believes that she will be successful if she puts her mind to something – and usually she’s right. She will also defend the rights of others when she believes in the cause.

It’s this eternal optimism that keeps her moving forward but it’s also this same thing however that sometimes stops her from learning from the past. Still, it’s hard to focus on the past when you’re living in the moment and making moves towards the future. She doesn’t dwell on bygone days.

#3: Aries women are resilient and they’re anything but easy to take down.

The Aries woman is courageous, steadfast and not afraid to share her opinions or make herself visible. In the face of an obstacle they rise to the challenge and don’t allow themselves to take bulls#*t from anyone.

Because of her natural strength the Aries woman often takes on leadership roles within her pack. She may also put a lot of pressure on herself to succeed, criticising herself harshly if she doesn’t live up to her own standards.

#4: Aries women like to be in control and can get frustrated big time when things don’t go according to plan.

The independent traits of the Aries woman make her quite the competent leader but when things don’t go according to plan, especially because somebody else screwed up, she can get pretty damn frustrated.

This can also make her a bit inflexible when it comes to embracing differing opinions. She may have trouble compromising on things that she believes she knows best about. Just sometimes she could do with being a bit more open-minded when it comes to hearing out alternative approaches and solutions.

#5: Aries women have a strong sense of belief in their own abilities.

An Aries woman is confident in her own abilities and knows the value that she brings to the table. She is also confident that the important people in her life will stick by her side which helps her get away with having such a strong and assertive personality.

Her inner self belief combined with her desire to make it to the top often sees her striving to the very highest levels of success which can result her doing extremely well in life particularly financially and career-wise.

#6: Aries women are some of the most fun people you will ever meet, period.

Aries ladies can be so damn fun to hang out with that you’ll find yourself totally letting your guard down and forgetting about everything else that’s going on in the world.

Her impulsive nature is contagious and people often find themselves doing all sorts of things they wouldn’t normally do when hanging with an Aries woman.

#7: But if you piss off an Aries woman you’ll open the flood gates to hell.

Lets get this straight – the Aries women can be some of the kindest or the meanest people you’ve ever met… it all just depends on how you treat them.

Do the right thing by them and they will always fight your corner but screw them over and they will unleash a furious wrath. They can be quite revengeful when provoked!

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My Personality Color is BLUE

What do these Colors mean anyway?

“A prospective client recently asked me if I could better explain what these four Colors are so that she could better understand how the Color Code Science strategy works and how to apply it to her life.  She said, “I just hear about “Red,” “Blue,” “White,” and “Yellow”  with a few behavioral qualities that describe what each Color is like. She also wanted to know what the Colors themselves mean.

  • There is no Color that is better or worse than any other Color. (Period).
  • Each Color brings wonderful strengths to the table and can be encumbered by terrible limitations.
  • There is no “right” or “wrong” Color combination between people in a relationship.

In other words, any Color can work with any other Color in a professional setting, and any Color can be in a meaningful personal relationship with any other Color.

Every relationship combination under the sun requires work. Every relationship combination has the potential to be wildly successful or absolutely devastating. The key is, understanding what makes people tick—what motivates them to do what they do, now you can understand what to expect or not to expect, how to communicate, how to inspire, how to express love, how to grow, etc.

So what do the Colors “Red,” “Blue,” “White,” and “Yellow” mean, anyway? It is important to realize that the Colors in and of themselves don’t mean anything at all. Just because I’m a Blue, for example, doesn’t mean that I like the color Blue, or look good in the color BLUE, etc.

The Colors are just a simple metaphor to communicate a more complex meaning.

The key bit of information here – is to remember what MOTIVATES each of the Colors. In other words, what is the driving force behind the way that they think, behave, and feel.

We call this the “Driving Core Motive” or “DCM” for short. Here is a list of the DCMs by Color Code:

Reds are motivated by Power

Blues are motivated by Intimacy

Whites are motivated by Peace

Yellows are motivated by Fun

Let’s take a moment now, to define what each of these DCMs mean, because once you understand that, this idea of “Colors” and “Motives” and what to do with this information should be a lot more meaningful to you as you evaluate the various relationships in your life and ponder on what is working well and what requires improvement.

What does it mean to be motivated by Power, as a Red?

Sometimes people think about power in terms of control. While it’s true that Reds do like to be in control of their circumstances and are attracted to leadership opportunities, that’s not a very complete picture of what Power really means to Reds. To Reds, Power generally means that they desire the ability to move from “point A” to “point B”—and they want to do it in the most direct, productive and efficient way possible. Next, let’s consider what it means to be motivated by Intimacy, as a Blue.

Being motivated by Intimacy means that Blues like to connect with others on a deep and meaningful level. Just ask any Blue how they feel about people who are fake/superficial, and I guarantee you will get quite a strong reaction. They want nothing to do with those kinds of people, because Intimacy for a Blue is about truth, legitimacy, integrity, loyalty, and sincerity.  Another fun question to ask Blues is simply, “How many friends do you have?” It’s a simple enough question, but most Blues will immediately come to the conclusion that there is a real difference between friends and acquaintances, and they’ll process this on a very serious level. At the end of their contemplation, most Blues will tell you that they can count the number of their friends on one hand, because those are the people with whom they feel that real, intimate connection. Incidentally, if you ask a Yellow the same question, they will probably quote you their Facebook stats.

The next look we will take is at the Whites who are motivated by Peace. When I ask people what they think Peace means to a White; they usually come up with a definition that centers around a general lack of conflict. While it is true that most Whites are not typically big fans of conflict, their definition of Peace runs deeper than that.  To a White, Peace is all about inner harmony and balance. They don’t like to have that equilibrium disrupted. That’s why they try to change the subject if you attempt to talk about something that makes them feel insecure. They don’t want to stir things up inside. Think about how centered and consistent the Whites you know can be. They don’t get overly excited about things, and they don’t get really depressed about things either. They are consistent, even-tempered, and steady, because on the inside, they seek harmony and balance.

Last, but not least, we come to the Yellows in our discussion. Yellows are motivated by Fun.  Let’s talk about what that means, because most people misunderstand this about Yellows. Fun does not simply mean that Yellows are seeking endless frivolity and that they never take things seriously.  People incorrectly assume that Yellows don’t like structure, when in fact, they crave it. It only looks like they resist it because most Yellows don’t know how to create structure on their own.  Fun to a Yellow actually means “living in the moment.” It means that they enjoy the process of what they are doing far more than the end result. That’s why Yellows are generally so engaged and “present” when you are with them. They are focused on the here and now and nothing else. Carpe Diem or “seize the day” is a Yellow way of life.

In a work setting, Yellows simply find a way to enjoy whatever it is they are doing – no matter how mundane. They’ll focus on the camaraderie, the experiences they have, the social interaction their work provides, etc. They tend to think very optimistically, and if they can be positive and enjoy their work, they will find it easier to commit and excel in whatever it is that they are doing.

So there you have it, a brief, introductory lesson on the Colors themselves and on the DCMs that drive them.

One last little lesson I’ll leave you with is this… When you consider the four DCMs of Power, Intimacy, Peace, and Fun, please take note that none of these motives are positive… nor are they negative. Power, Intimacy, Peace, and Fun in and of themselves are all neutral. The APPLICATION of Power, Intimacy, Peace, and Fun is what makes them positive or negative. I hope this overview on the four motive styles helps you better understand the people around you. All life is about relationships. There are no areas of life that are NOT impacted by relationships, so please study these patterns. Seek to understand motives and you will be far more effective in all areas of your life.” (JD)

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Why do we Think and Act as we Do?

Why do we think and act as we do?

Do you know?

Have you given this any thought or consideration?

Is your personality a mystery to you?

Think about this – if your personality is a mystery to you – imagine how the other people in your life may perceive you.  Think about the perceptions of members of your family, your friends and co-workers.

Have you ever been puzzled or frustrated by your actions and reactions?

Self-discovery is the key to unlocking the mystery of your personality and the personality of others.

Gaining knowledge in this space will profoundly change your life.

Now,  you are probably wondering how you can access this knowledge?

First, you will complete a personality assessment.

Second, you will receive a basic analysis.

Third, we can engage in robust conversation about your results; dissecting your thoughts and feelings about the analysis.

Finally, we can create a partnership to further explore your personality; creating a journey of authentic self-awareness and interpretation of life.

If you are intrigued, email Deborah to schedule a complimentary conversation.

You can access here for a basic analysis:

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I’m excited for you and look forward to connecting with you.

Until then……………………………

Sincerely,

Deborah

Self-Awareness Strategist

Accessing the Power of Gratitude

Accessing the Power of Gratitude

The practice of gratitude as a tool for happiness has been in the mainstream for years. Long-term studies support gratitude’s effectiveness, suggesting that a positive, appreciative attitude contributes to greater success in work, greater health, peak performance in sports and business, a higher sense of well-being, and a faster rate of recovery from surgery.

But while we may acknowledge gratitude’s many benefits, it still can be difficult to sustain. So many of us are trained to notice what is broken, undone or lacking in our lives. And for gratitude to meet its full healing potential in our lives, it needs to become more than just a Thanksgiving word. We have to learn a new way of looking at things, a new habit. And that can take some time.

That’s why practicing gratitude makes so much sense. When we practice giving thanks for all we have, instead of complaining about what we lack, we give ourselves the chance to see all of life as an opportunity and a blessing.

Remember that gratitude isn’t a blindly optimistic approach in which the bad things in life are whitewashed or ignored. It’s more a matter of where we put our focus and attention. Pain and injustice exist in this world, but when we focus on the gifts of life, we gain a feeling of well-being. Gratitude balances us and gives us hope.

There are many things to be grateful for: colorful autumn leaves, legs that work, friends who listen and really hear, chocolate, fresh eggs, warm jackets, tomatoes, the ability to read, roses, our health, butterflies. What’s on your list?

Some Ways to Practice Gratitude

Keep a gratitude journal in which you list things for which you are thankful. You can make daily, weekly or monthly lists. Greater frequency may be better for creating a new habit, but just keeping that journal where you can see it will remind you to think in a grateful way.
Make a gratitude collage by drawing or pasting pictures.
Practice gratitude around the dinner table or make it part of your nighttime routine.
Make a game of finding the hidden blessing in a challenging situation.
When you feel like complaining, make a gratitude list instead. You may be amazed by how much better you feel.
Notice how gratitude is impacting your life. Write about it, sing about it, express thanks for gratitude.

As you practice, an inner shift begins to occur, and you may be delighted to discover how content and hopeful you are feeling. That sense of fulfillment is gratitude at work.