Why Aries women are force to be reckoned with…

7 Core Traits Of The Aries Woman…

#1: Aries women are some of the most passionate people that you’ll ever meet, but…

The Aries woman is full of life and passion. She’s always got a million different things on the go and is constantly up for trying new things. She’ll also talk your ear off for hours on end if you ask the right questions.

But sometimes her passion can wither quickly and she can find herself losing interest in people or activities that don’t present her with a challenge. Her gung-ho ambition allows her to devote all of her energy to projects that entice her and once something becomes boring, the Aries woman may become impatient. She often moves on to new projects before she completes the old ones and people who can’t match her fire may get cast aside for new playmates.

#2: Aries women have a relentless sense of optimism and belief in themselves.

The Aries traits of optimism and self-belief run deep within these women. She believes that she will be successful if she puts her mind to something – and usually she’s right. She will also defend the rights of others when she believes in the cause.

It’s this eternal optimism that keeps her moving forward but it’s also this same thing however that sometimes stops her from learning from the past. Still, it’s hard to focus on the past when you’re living in the moment and making moves towards the future. She doesn’t dwell on bygone days.

#3: Aries women are resilient and they’re anything but easy to take down.

The Aries woman is courageous, steadfast and not afraid to share her opinions or make herself visible. In the face of an obstacle they rise to the challenge and don’t allow themselves to take bulls#*t from anyone.

Because of her natural strength the Aries woman often takes on leadership roles within her pack. She may also put a lot of pressure on herself to succeed, criticising herself harshly if she doesn’t live up to her own standards.

#4: Aries women like to be in control and can get frustrated big time when things don’t go according to plan.

The independent traits of the Aries woman make her quite the competent leader but when things don’t go according to plan, especially because somebody else screwed up, she can get pretty damn frustrated.

This can also make her a bit inflexible when it comes to embracing differing opinions. She may have trouble compromising on things that she believes she knows best about. Just sometimes she could do with being a bit more open-minded when it comes to hearing out alternative approaches and solutions.

#5: Aries women have a strong sense of belief in their own abilities.

An Aries woman is confident in her own abilities and knows the value that she brings to the table. She is also confident that the important people in her life will stick by her side which helps her get away with having such a strong and assertive personality.

Her inner self belief combined with her desire to make it to the top often sees her striving to the very highest levels of success which can result her doing extremely well in life particularly financially and career-wise.

#6: Aries women are some of the most fun people you will ever meet, period.

Aries ladies can be so damn fun to hang out with that you’ll find yourself totally letting your guard down and forgetting about everything else that’s going on in the world.

Her impulsive nature is contagious and people often find themselves doing all sorts of things they wouldn’t normally do when hanging with an Aries woman.

#7: But if you piss off an Aries woman you’ll open the flood gates to hell.

Lets get this straight – the Aries women can be some of the kindest or the meanest people you’ve ever met… it all just depends on how you treat them.

Do the right thing by them and they will always fight your corner but screw them over and they will unleash a furious wrath. They can be quite revengeful when provoked!

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Please Hear What I’m Not Saying

Don’t be fooled by me.
Don’t be fooled by the face I wear
for I wear a mask, a thousand masks,
masks that I’m afraid to take off,
and none of them is me.

Pretending is an art that’s second nature with me, but don’t be fooled,
for God’s sake don’t be fooled.

I give you the impression that I’m secure, that all is sunny and unruffled with me, within as well as without,
that confidence is my name and coolness my game, that the water’s calm and I’m in command and that I need no one, but don’t believe me.

My surface may seem smooth but my surface is my mask, ever-varying and ever-concealing. Beneath lies no complacence. Beneath lies confusion, and fear, and aloneness. But I hide this. I don’t want anybody to know it.
I panic at the thought of my weakness exposed. That’s why I frantically create a mask to hide behind, a nonchalant sophisticated facade, to help me pretend, to shield me from the glance that knows.

But such a glance is precisely my salvation, my only hope, and I know it. That is, if it’s followed by acceptance, if it’s followed by love. It’s the only thing that can liberate me from myself, from my own self-built prison walls, from the barriers I so painstakingly erect. It’s the only thing that will assure me of what I can’t assure myself, that I’m really worth something. But I don’t tell you this. I don’t dare to, I’m afraid to.
I’m afraid your glance will not be followed by acceptance, will not be followed by love. I’m afraid you’ll think less of me, that you’ll laugh, and your laugh would kill me. I’m afraid that deep-down I’m nothing and that you will see this and reject me.

So I play my game, my desperate pretending game, with a facade of assurance without and a trembling child within. So begins the glittering but empty parade of masks, and my life becomes a front. I idly chatter to you in the suave tones of surface talk.
I tell you everything that’s really nothing, and nothing of what’s everything, of what’s crying within me.
So when I’m going through my routine
do not be fooled by what I’m saying.
Please listen carefully and try to hear what I’m not saying, what I’d like to be able to say, what for survival I need to say, but what I can’t say.

I don’t like hiding. I don’t like playing superficial phony games. I want to stop playing them. I want to be genuine and spontaneous and me but you’ve got to help me. You’ve got to hold out your hand even when that’s the last thing I seem to want. Only you can wipe away from my eyes the blank stare of the breathing dead. Only you can call me into aliveness. Each time you’re kind, and gentle, and encouraging, each time you try to understand because you really care, my heart begins to grow wings–
very small wings,
very feeble wings,
but wings!

With your power to touch me into feeling you can breathe life into me.
I want you to know that.
I want you to know how important you are to me, how you can be a creator–an honest-to-God creator–of the person that is me if you choose to.
You alone can break down the wall behind which I tremble, you alone can remove my mask, you alone can release me from my shadow-world of panic,
from my lonely prison,
if you choose to. Please choose to.

Do not pass me by. It will not be easy for you. A long conviction of worthlessness builds strong walls.
The nearer you approach to me the blinder I may strike back. It’s irrational, but despite what the books say about man often I am irrational.
I fight against the very thing I cry out for. But I am told that love is stronger than strong walls and in this lies my hope. Please try to beat down those walls with firm hands but with gentle hands for a child is very sensitive.

Who am I, you may wonder?
I am someone you know very well.
For I am every man you meet
and I am every woman you meet.

Charles C. Finn
September 1966

The Secret to Communicating with Your Adult Children

You love your adult children and want to have a close relationship with them. However, things sometimes turn out differently than you planned.

Family communications can be tricky. It’s easy to fall into old patterns that become reinforced over many years. It’s difficult to remember that the baby you raised now has a career and children of their own.

Transforming the way in which you talk with each other can help you to strengthen your connection and avoid misunderstandings. Try these secrets for communicating with your adult children.

Staying in Touch with Your Adult Children

Are Zoom calls enough? Studies show that parents and adult children who interact face to face tend to have more positive relationships. If possible, use technology as a supplement rather than a mainstay.

Try these strategies:

Plan ahead. Even if you live under the same roof, your relationships will probably be more rewarding if you approach them intentionally. That’s even more important if you’re miles away. Block out time for each other on a regular basis.

Enjoy common interests. You’ll have more to talk about if you like the same things. Play board games and outdoor sports. Take cooking classes and visit science museums. Share your experiences with home improvement projects and volunteer activities.

Take a vacation. Family trips create lasting memories. A change of scenery can also make it easier to experiment with new ways of relating to each other. Choose a destination that appeals to your whole group.

Host your grandchildren. Spend time with your grandchildren and rack up some goodwill with your own kids. You’ll have fun with the little ones, and their parents will be able to take a break.

Communicate one on one. Family gatherings are wonderful but connecting individually matters too. Engage in private discussions and outings.

Schedule a call. Technology may have limits, but it’s still valuable. Connect with video calls and text messages when you’re unable to see each other offline.

Resolving Differences with Your Adult Children

Disagreements among family members are natural and can trigger strong emotions. Still, iIf you deal with them constructively, they can draw you closer together.

Keep these strategies in mind to help keep challenges at bay:

Listen closely. Spend more time listening to your adult children and less time talking. Pay attention to what they’re saying instead of planning your comeback. Use encouraging facial expressions and gestures.

Respect boundaries. Let your family know how you wish to be treated and the consequences for exceeding your limits. Show them the same courtesy and respect.

Set priorities. Decide on the principles and values you want to stand up for. Be flexible and open to compromises in other areas. You may be able to accept different housekeeping standards, as long as you spare each other any manipulation or guilt trips.

Let go of judgements. Be happy that your children are strong and independent adults capable of making their own decisions. Offer moral support but avoid giving unsolicited advice unless there’s a serious health and safety concern.

Apologize sincerely. You’re bound to disappoint each other sometimes or struggle to find common ground. Be quick to ask for forgiveness when appropriate and be generous about giving second chances.

Express appreciation. You’ll probably run into fewer conflicts if you cultivate a sense of gratitude. Think about the qualities you like in your children. Let them know that you love them and recognize their achievements.

Build a strong and mutually rewarding relationship with your adult children. Open and respectful communications will help you to enjoy meaningful conversations and fun times. While the way you interact changes over time, you may enjoy your new friendship even more.

New Experiences

New experiences excite me. I am always interested in trying something new. Whether it is a new food, travelling to a new location, or listening to a new type of music, I am an enthusiastic participant.

I believe that variety is the spice of life. I want to experience as much as possible during my time on Earth.

I avoid falling into a routine that prevents me from experiencing all the variety that the world has to offer.

I want to sample it all during the time I have.

I want to ensure that I have seen, done, and experienced everything that interests me. I believe that a life fully lived is rich, varied, and bold. I am committed to living this type of life. I embrace the opportunities to live this type of life.

I am a curious and open person in general. I want to know more. I want to see more. I am open to new people, cultures, and ideas.

I am interested in looking beyond my regular daily life.

Today, I am keeping my eyes and options open. I am determined to have at least one new experience today. I can always create an opportunity if one fails to present itself to me. New experiences are my exciting new path in life.

Self-Reflection Questions:

  1. What is the most interesting new thing I have done in the last year? Why haven’t I done more new things over this period of time?
  2. What are some new experiences that I would like to have that are within my reach?
  3. If I had one new experience each week, how would that change me over the next five years?

I Am the Hero of My Own Journey

I am the hero of my own journey.

I am grateful for the knowledge of the Hero’s Journey. I am truly blessed to have education around this model. Now that I am armed with this information, I can go on a conscious life quest.

I realize that I have been on my journey my whole life. Now I can look back and see the blessings of all lessons along the way.

I forgive myself for mistakes in the past. I realize they were only “missteps.”

Even though I have gotten stuck in the mire in those swamps of the past, I am proof now that I can survive anything. I am tough.

I have ventured into the dark night of the Soul and lived to see the light.

I have gone into scary caves and found the treasure trove of digging deep into my spirit and finding strength I didn’t know I had.

Having gone through tough times, I have come out triumphant.

Now that I am a Conscious Hero of my life, I can choose my path from a place of wisdom.

I check in with my heart first, as it is the compass of my Soul. I set my sight on my North Star and with the determination of a racehorse, I move swiftly toward my goal. I am immune to distractions.

Today, I gain wisdom and strength along my journey and share the boon with my fellow travelers.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. What can I do today to be conscious of my hero’s quest?
2. How can I turn the travails of my life into treasures?
3. Who do I want as my trusted companions on my journey?

Sincerely,
Life Coach Deborah
Life Coach

Appreciate You

Nurture your confidence. Believe in yourself.

Pat yourself on the back – mentally, that is. It’s ok to give yourself a compliment once in a while.

Your successes – on the entrepreneurial grind, on the job, or managing your household – all count, such as launching a new product or service, finishing a big project, inventing a process that saves your employer money, or helping your elderly neighbor.

Write them down or text yourself. Seeing your accomplishments in print makes your self-worth more tangible.

Recognize your strengths. Make a list of the things that you do well. If you struggle with identifying your abilities, ask a peer, friend, family member, or coworker to help you think of some.

Everyone experiences self-doubt and failure occasionally. Recognize when negative messages, such as “I can’t do this” – are constantly holding you back in your life, at work, at home, or within your business. You’re worth the effort.

Ask yourself this question: What have I done well professionally or personally?

Next, give yourself the answer.